I can’t even count the amount of times that I’ve heard men tell me that if a woman sleeps with them on the first date then she isn’t relationship material. The general consensus seems to be that if a woman makes you wait she’s more likely a “keeper” than if she “puts out” too quickly. Many men abide by this rule even if they genuinely like the woman that they have dated.
I’m sorry but what utter tosh!
Look, I understand that many men seem to enjoy the chase and with a lack of wild animals to hunt for the dinner table, women can provide the perfect challenge. However, if you take a step back and analyse the situation, your personal rule book could be messing up potential relationships and if you don’t mind me saying so, is a bit of a cliche.
If you have had a wonderful night with a woman and you are both attracted to one another, there really is no harm in two consenting adults having a bit of fun. Sometimes passion takes over and one thing leads to another, particularly where alcohol is involved. This type of sex is not making love. You don’t know each other well enough for that. But it can be incredible and is a great sign that you are attracted to each other.
Following your night of fun, you can then continue dating and getting to know each other. As you spend more time together, the relationship will grow,the sex will change and hopefully you will enjoy the journey that you are going on together.
The key here is not to see the sex bit as the challenge but getting to know the woman in question and growing the relationship.
Sometimes you just want a one night stand (many women do too) but please never discount a woman because she has sex with you on the first date. Like you, she was caught up in the moment, excited and perhaps just really wanted sex. (Men aren’t the only ones with libidos). So….give her a call the next day and don’t turn your back on a potentially great relationship opportunity.